A Spice of Life w/ Suga: Q & A Session 19

cousinsQ: Dear Suga,

I used to be really close to one of my cousins. I feel like now because we have different interests she has completely stopped dealing with me and it’s really hurtful. We didn’t have a falling out or anything, just gradually I stopped hearing from her and now not at all. I don’t know what to do about it. I know sometimes friendships end because of different interests but I didn’t think it would with family. What do I do?

Sincerely,

Missing my Fam

 

A: Dear Missing my Fam,

I feel your pain. I’ve went through this myself and I’m going to give you the advice I should have taken. Talk to them. The best way to resolve anything is to communicate. Your cousin may not have even noticed that this is going on. He/She may be too into what they’re doing now to have even realized that they’re alienating you. It’s wrong and you don’t deserve it especially if things hadn’t gone sour between you too. Some people are honestly too wrapped up in themselves to notice that things have changed. They might be waiting on you to call, you just never know. When you talk to your cousin try to set up some time to hang out. If they’re down then things are all good. If they make excuses then it very well could mean the end of your friendship. Not all cousins stay friends. Families go through stages. I’m not close to all the cousins I grew up with, it happens. You’ll miss it but it’s okay because you are still family and you can very well become close again.

coworkQ: Dear Suga,

I have a coworker that I can’t stand! She is a huge kiss-ass and extremely two-faced. Her presence irks me and I don’t know how much longer I can control my feelings and I’m not the only who feels this way I just think it’s bothering me more. I don’t know what to do.

Sincerely,

Irritated at Work

 

A: Dear Irritated at Work,

It sucks that you’re not happy at your job. To be honest though, there will always be someone at any job you have that you could do without. No one I know likes everyone at their job. We’re just not that fortunate. What I would advise you to do is to stay away from her as much as you can. I know that’s hard to do at work but only deal with her when it’s a work-related situation. Let her know that unless it’s work-related that you shouldn’t speak to her.  She has to respect that. Now with her being a kiss-ass she may very well go and tell your boss. If that does happen, I would tell your supervisor that you don’t feel that speaking to her beyond work-related issues is good for either of you. Your boss will most likely understand because I’m sure they don’t like everyone they work with. Focus on doing your best at work; don’t let anyone mess up your money!

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