Q: Dear Suga,
I’ve been seeing this guy for like 2 years now and I think we’re heading down separate paths. How do I sit him down for “the talk?”
A: Dear Chatty,
My advice would be to first decide if you want to save the relationship. If so, you should plan a quiet dinner at home. After dinner, let him know that you would like to talk. Let him know that you have concerns that your lives are heading in separate directions. He may agree or disagree. If he does and wants to save the relationship, talk about different things you two can do together to get things back on track. Maybe a trip is needed for you two to reconnect. Ask him if he’s happy. Sometimes relationships become monotonous and no one is willing to say if things aren’t feeling the same to them. Be open to whatever he says and be honest about your thoughts and feelings as well. Whatever you two decide, make sure you’re both okay with it.
Should women try to maintain a relationship with their exes in order to be a part of their children’s lives?
A: Dear Co-Parent,
There should be some kind of relationship, if nothing more than just being cordial. You have to raise this child together so no matter what broke you two up you can’t let it affect your relationship as parents. This is solely for the benefit of a child. I think a child would be happier if they’re not feeling like they’re caught in the middle of two parents who just refuse to get along. I’m no expert but I think that children feel stresses when they’re parents aren’t getting along. This could possibly affect their schoolwork and also how they relate to other people. You two are the most important example your children will have on how to behave. So how you treat each other makes all the difference!
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