Q: Dear Suga,
How soon is too soon for a guy to tell you he loves you and what do you say if you are extremely into him but just not in love yet?
He Fell Too Fast
A: Dear He Fell Too Fast,
There is no real time limit on what someone is feeling in their heart. Obviously, in the first few weeks it would definitely be too soon but you may have him feeling that way. Personally, I have fallen for a guy sooner than I expected to. Don’t feel bad that you’re not feeling the same because that doesn’t mean you won’t. Just tell him thank you and that you care deeply for him but you’re just not there yet. Hopefully, his feelings aren’t hurt and you two can continue things that way they are.
When in a new relationship, why do we as women compare ourselves to the women before?
The New One
A: Dear The New One,
For some reason, women have a competitive nature when it comes to other women. I don’t understand it but it seems to have always been this way. We’re always trying to outdo one another, even our friends and family. It’s actually really sad but it’s just the way it is. But to answer your question I think we compare ourselves because we want to be better than her. We don’t want the man we’re with to long for his ex-girlfriend. We could have never met this woman and couldn’t be able to point her out in a crowd but the things we know about her from our new boyfriend drive us to be better. We don’t want him to remember her nor her name. We have to be the best he’s ever had in every way. So we listen to his stories all while plotting while to go above and beyond that. We really need to be confident in the fact that we’re his choice and focus on being with him and not being better than her!
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