We women can lose track of who we are by the many titles we hold: mother, wife, daughter, therapist, doctor, friend, etc. We must remember first and foremost we are women. All other titles stem from that fact. The daily grind can cause us to forget that.
As mothers, you are heroes to your children. This is the HARDEST job on Earth. It is a 24/7 job with no breaks and can sometimes be a thankless job. I don’t think people who aren’t mothers understand the magnitude of being a mom, including myself. As a wife, you are to hold your man down or up, depending on your way of thinking. You pick up where he lacks and are the backbone of the family. You make sure he has less stress on him, you are his partner. You are there to be anything that he needs. It is a tough task because sometimes he feels he has the whole world on his shoulders and you want to help fix those problems that are stressing him out because sometimes when the man is stressed, the family is too.
As our parents get older, our role as a daughter changes too. We are making sure our parents have everything they need and in some cases becoming a caretaker. In a way, you are taking care of two households which could stress out the sanest of women. You are giving back to your parents what they have given you, emotional and sometimes financial support. As a friend, you are there to be someone’s shoulder. You are a therapist and an escape from your friend’s lives and they are the same for you. You together deal with all these pressures as well as sometimes help them deal with their own and give the best possible advice on how to balance it all.
You are so many things to so many people but we must make the effort to put ourselves first. You must find the time to treat ourselves. Whether it’s time with your girlfriends or time alone, you need a break from your lives. Your health is important as well. As I’ve gotten older I realize the importance of taking care of our bodies. No one will treat you better than you do yourself. We are not able to wear our many hats if we don’t take care of ourselves. So it is okay sometimes to be a little selfish. Go on that shopping trip or spend that day in the spa. Your family will thank you for it. A happy, relaxed woman makes the world a better place!
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