Q: Dear Suga,
Is it possible to love more than one person at a time?
A: Dear Torn,
It is possible to love more than one person at a time. Story of my youth! Different people bring different things to our lives and bring different things out of us. You may have one person who makes you think about life and everything in a way you never thought before and the other person may have a hold on you because you’ve known them forever and you feel a sense of loyalty. We all wish we could combine people and get the perfect person but we’re not that fortunate. You may be in a relationship with one and hanging out with the other or in a relationship with both. Either way you need to think about who really has your heart. I’ve been known to make a list of pros and cons to help me out. When it comes to matters of the heart you can never be too careful. Who motivates you to be a better person? Who is more on your mind more through the course of the day? Truth is, you probably care for one more than the other but when you’re around one that person feels like that’s the one you love more. You may need time away from the both to figure out who’s best for you.
Hope this helps!
I have 3 kids and been with my man for 8yrs. We’re not married but we might as well be since we live together. He was separated when I met him but he’s been divorced now for 2yrs. Why hasn’t he popped the question?
A: Dear Too Patient,
I know 8 years is a long time to be with someone without the commitment you desire. I first must ask if he has ever mentioned marriage. Though he has been with you as long as he has he may not want to be married again. He may feel that even though you two have been together such a long time, he may not be ready to get married yet. Your man might think that you are okay with not being married since you have stayed as long as you have. Even though we women think that after being with a man for a long time that marriage is no big deal, men don’t see it that way. Many men feel that marriage changes women and not necessarily for the better. My advice to you would be to sit down and have a conversation with your man and see where his head is at on the subject of marriage. It’s possible that he wants to marry you but is afraid. His last marriage didn’t work out and there could be a fear that things could go that way with you.
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